My journey: Abridged Version

I grew up in Dartmouth, Nova Scotia. My parents were married for a year before my brother came along and then 20 months later I followed, my sister came along 3 years later. We were always busy, camping, sports, church, girl guides, family game/movie nights. And of course nightly family dinners. Everyone in my family appreciates food and I am no exception. This fueled a life long love and passion for all things culinary. I love cooking, dietary restrictions are a welcome challenge. I also prioritize food when traveling, my favourite way to explore somewhere new is by following my stomach.

I was always “close” with my family. And by that I mean I’m the kind of person who people have always been very comfortable talking to. I was emotionally responsible for my parents and siblings for as long as I could remember. I had a tendency to enter into a healing role in relationships without meaning to. Through my life this has changed and now only happens intentionally, and for compensation🤪 If this was a couple hundred years ago I’d have been the village whore people went to for connection and support in my youth and the witch everyone went to for help/advice in my tender years… I digress…

I always did well in school and when I turned 18 I moved to Ottawa for a rugby and academic scholarship to UOttawa. I blew out my knee (ACL, MCL, meniscus and dislocation) and that ended rugby for me but I was young and my recovery went well. While studying history I began to understand why I had always been a book nerd (1000+ books in my house and counting). I loved a story,  any story because they explained how and why things developed they way they did. Because of my studies, once I knew that people, their biases, experiences and trials shaped how the world has and will evolve I HAD to understand people in general. I didn’t finish my degree, I developed wicked insomnia and in the process of treating that I re-evaluated what I wanted to do and I ended up getting an advanced diploma in child and youth work. I studied how our childhoods( and our parents childhoods and their parents childhoods) creates our individual realities. That those realities are made easier or harder by society. That in order for people to get mentally healthy society has to change. I have worked in the social services as a youth counsellor, behaviour specialist and direct support professional since before my graduation.

I started sex work in 2017 so that I could find a balance in my life. In doing so I came to yet another fundamental understanding, sex, touch and physical release is every bit as important as working out, eating healthy and getting enough sleep in balancing yourself and thus your physical and mental health.

I used to work 90 hours a week, with no time or energy for developing myself and my hobbies. I now work 30ish hours a week of truly fulfilling work, having a beautiful home, 3 dogs, three cats, and still have time to practice my hobbies and work on myself.